Molly
04-26-2008, 05:09 AM
This is another one from my favorite TV series in which a man still refuses to forgive his enemy despite them coming to him to make amends. His reason is that he has been bearing that grudge for 25 years now.
A grudge is like a plant. Once planted, it grows over time. Since the man has been bearing that grudge for 25 years now, it has become a big tree. The roots are deeply embedded in his heart and will be difficult to remove.
Despite pleas from his family, the man steadfastly refused to forgive and forget. His grudge has made him a bitter man.
However, there is a positive side to his grudge. He has harnessed his rage to build a successful business for himself.
I guess it depends on how we use our emotions. We can turn a negative emotion like rage, which is very powerful and turn it into a passion. But that passion has to be used to create something positive. If we use that passion to further fuel our hatred, then there is no benefits.
Case in point, this man. He used his passion to build a business empire but that passion is based on his hatred for his enemy. The purpose of his business is to compete and ultimately destroy his enemy.
It has made him a hard and bitter man with very few friends.
If he was willing to forgive, after all, his enemy has already taken the first step to settling their feud, don't you think he will be a happier man? He doesn't realize that by letting go of his hate, the grudge will fade away.
After all, after 25 years, what point could there be to stubbornly hold on to one's anger like that for so long? It tires you out, drains your soul, not to mention the other health complications.
My advice to this man would be just to let go. By holding on, he is hurting nobody but himself.
A grudge is like a plant. Once planted, it grows over time. Since the man has been bearing that grudge for 25 years now, it has become a big tree. The roots are deeply embedded in his heart and will be difficult to remove.
Despite pleas from his family, the man steadfastly refused to forgive and forget. His grudge has made him a bitter man.
However, there is a positive side to his grudge. He has harnessed his rage to build a successful business for himself.
I guess it depends on how we use our emotions. We can turn a negative emotion like rage, which is very powerful and turn it into a passion. But that passion has to be used to create something positive. If we use that passion to further fuel our hatred, then there is no benefits.
Case in point, this man. He used his passion to build a business empire but that passion is based on his hatred for his enemy. The purpose of his business is to compete and ultimately destroy his enemy.
It has made him a hard and bitter man with very few friends.
If he was willing to forgive, after all, his enemy has already taken the first step to settling their feud, don't you think he will be a happier man? He doesn't realize that by letting go of his hate, the grudge will fade away.
After all, after 25 years, what point could there be to stubbornly hold on to one's anger like that for so long? It tires you out, drains your soul, not to mention the other health complications.
My advice to this man would be just to let go. By holding on, he is hurting nobody but himself.