It's All About Helping People

[LoveIsTheAnswer]

One of the most important questions you can ask yourself is this;

"What can *I* contribute to the world ?"

What gift can YOU give people ?
Is it your Talent ? Ability ? Insight ? Knowledge ? Your eye for beauty? - What ?

It is only when you find that and successfully GET IT OUT THERE (and that's where the *marketing* comes in), that you will start to see a reward for your efforts.

A great many people are dissatisfied with their lives. The two greatest lacks are LOVE and MONEY.

In all cases, the answer is to be found in LOVE.

Think about it.

Chad Hurley and Steve Chen once thought "Gee, we'd LOVE to make a site where people could upload their videos and all of them could be accessed by anybody"
YouTube as born.

Pierre Omidyar once thought "I'd LOVE to make an online market where people could buy and sell anything"
Ebay was born

Patric Chan once thought "I'd LOVE to show people how they too can do what they want to do!"
"You Chan Do It" was born.

Oprah, Tony Robbins, Bill Gates and the host of other famous people who have been responsible for shaping our world have ONE thing in common - they LOVE what they do.
Then, they then shared that with the world.

This is why I keep iterating that "LOVE IS the Answer".

If there is nothing in or about your life that you really love, then chances are that you will most likely never attain happiness or wealth or any of those other nice things.

The force behind the Law of Attraction is LOVE.
Love anything enough and you will draw it to yourself.

But many people don't even KNOW what they really Love.
They haven't discovered it yet.
Or they only *think* they Love something.

They may think that they would Love to have a house and a family.
So they go out and find a partner, get married, have children and work hard to buy a house.

A few years down the track, they are tired, worn out, fighting about lack of money and have little love to spare for each other.

Their dream has failed them.
It did not bring them the happiness they expected.

Then comes the separation.
The divorce.
The custody battle.
The court cases for possession of assets.
The expense!

The whole dream has turned into a nightmare.

The lesson to be learnt here is to find what you TRULY Love, not just some idea that you fall in love WITH.

To find it, you have to (in Patric's words) IMMERSE YOURSELF.
Whatever you do, do it with ALL your heart, ALL your mind and ALL your soul.

Many notions of what might bring happiness are an illusion.
The biggest illusion is MONEY.

We have all seen the flashy websites, with pictures of bundles of money and tropical islands, the sports cars & beautiful mansions and the now successful internet marketeer selling his wares - which are, generally, self improvement/success/how to be wealthy courses, books, dvd's and what-not.

The motivation for great majority of these these sites is, quite obviously, money.

"Click here now to receive YOUR "How to be Wealthy" Ebook for only $29.95."

Boring.

The truth is, sadly, that very, VERY few people become wealthy from just reading such a publication. True wealth takes a lot more than just thinking positive and applying the Law of Attraction.

Do you know WHY people go online ?

People go online because they want to ACCOMPLISH something.
They go in search of *something* that will make their lives better.
It might be a way to make, invest or save more money, lose weight, get healthy, enjoy life more, become more attractive, learn something new or a bunch of other things.

The most successful people have found a way to help others - a way to make this world a better place. This is the name of the game. Take GOOGLE for example, or EBay, YouTube or even just computers in general. These things have made it possible for people to do things they could not do before and so, the people behind them have become successful.

Our mentor, Patric, has become successful by showing people a way they, too, can achieve what they want. This is the source of his success.

Ignorant people think more money will solve all their problems.
But only smart people know HOW to handle money and make the best from it.

Who do you think has more money problems - you or Bill Gates ?

Only a fool would think that a million dollars will help solve all his problems.

How many people could you help with a million dollars ?
Not many.

There is only ONE thing that can bring true fulfillment and contentment of one's soul, ONE answer to the burning question of the hour; one solution to the problems of labour and capital, masess and classes -
and that is LOVE.

In the end, Love boils down to simple SERVICE - service to humankind.

And THAT is what it's all about.

Would you LOVE to be successful & happy ?

Then find out where people are going and get there first.

Love IS the Answer. http://www.successandlife.com/forum/showthread.php?t=104

[Bolero]

Love is the Answer - Your post was well thought out. I have a reflection, or perhaps question. I was brought up to think of others and help them. I did that to the point of not even knowing what I "wanted" in my own life. Rather, I focused on doing for others at home and at work. What happened? Burnout, more that once. Now I've come to realize that I can be of more service by being true to myself, growing/expanding my God-given abilities, and moving out into the world from that inner-driven focus. My puzzle: I used to give everything away for free (help, technical expertise, volunteering, you name it). Now, being self-employed part-time, I still find it hard to ask for fair recompense when I perform a service. How do I go from helping one person or a small group, which I've done, and to helping maximally (like the mega-people you mentioned). How do I tie this together - love, helping others, and supporting myself ...in a small way and eventually in a GRAND way? Thanks for any insights.

[Sheryl]

Hi Bolero

I think it's all down to taking the emotion equation out of the whole thing. Think of it this way - you help people, you add value to their lives and in return they pay you fairly for your time and efforts. Nothing wrong with that, right?

[LoveIsTheAnswer]

(Good response, Sheryl!)

Hi Bolero,

I used to be exactly the same. I even took it a step further and believed that if I WASN"T able to do this for people, I was essentially useless.

I used to believe that if I did something wonderful for someone, then they would naturally recognise and appreciate it...

It never happened, well....only VERY rarely.

When you do this, people do not see the effort and love you put in and then think your contribution is not worth anything.
All around me, I saw people charging like "wounded bulls" for their work and their efforts were appreciated!
It seemed that the only way people saw value in something was if you charged them till their eyes watered!

What happens is that when you do things for free, you are actually DEFINING the VALUE of what you do as WORTHLESS!

You can pull off the greatest miracle for someone and if you don't charge them, they will see it as being worth NOTHING (or at best, only worth a "Thank You").

Furthermore, if what you did isn't ABSOLUTELY perfect, they will come back at you and winge on top of it!

It took me a long time to get out of that habit.

I had to begin believing in MY OWN WORTH, but not from MY perspective, because I always knew my efforts were valuable.

I started to see that the only way I could REALLY help people was to start putting a high price on my work.
That way, I would be adequately compensated and then be able to help more people because I wasn't running around with my bum hanging out of my pants.

The more I charged and the more I treated myself to the nicer things in life, the more they came and the less trouble I experienced in expecting return.

These days, I do very little for no return, unless it is for someone I see is struggling and I know that they will return the favor when they get on their feet.
But I make SURE they know the VALUE of what I am giving them.

I would suggest you start doing the affirmation that fixed a lot of my problems (in the "Mind Power" section of this forum) - but also add the word "worthy" in there as well.

There is nothing like a bit of positive programming!

I would say "Best of Luck" - but it is not a matter of "luck"..... just a matter of changing your thinking.

Now, that little consult will cost you $100. :D (peanuts when you consider how much money you will make if you put it into practice)

ps Remember that if you don't look after yourself FIRST, then you won't be in any POSITION to be of much use to anyone else.

pss All the time you spend helping unappreciative people could be spent doing stuff FOR yourself - and THAT will get you a LOT further.

[Bolero]

Excellent points! Thank you for both for your responses - and I'm grateful for the $100 "consultation." I'm getting clearer about WORTH, and the nature of an exchange, including to take the emotion out of it. Your description of how you evolved to charging more and treating yourself better was very helpful. Thank you for showing me what I need to know and do next. I will use the affirmation you suggested to change my beliefs...and actions.