Dis-covery and NOT Re-covery!

[funwey]

I've been reminded again and again that Recovery is a process and that it will unfold as it does. There are things I can do to make it easier on myself (and everyone around me) and there are things I can do to make it more difficult. But there isn't much I can do to RUSH the process. And that's a tough one for me to handle.

For example, I can now bend my left leg to between 80 and 85 degrees. It hurts like blazes when I do, but this work will eventually lead to more mobility for me. Key word there is 'eventually'. I'd like it to be NOW!!

But it is what it is, and so I've put two pictures of people sitting in the lotus position on my dream board as inspiration for me through this process.

And I choose to believe that I will eventually sit in that posture again.

Doing Yoga again is only one of the things I want to Recover. There are other things as well -- like being able to play badminton, walk to the bank, carry a bag of groceries, sit comfortably for more than a few minutes and have a good night's sleep uninterrupted by pain.

But more than recovery, I'm feeling the need to go through a process of Discovery. I know I'm here for a reason. I know that there are things for me to learn during this unplanned valley. And I know that if I choose to learn the lessons, I will discover things about myself and others that will be good.

I want to learn to be more compassionate, patient, -- eeks! yes, I did say patient -- understanding. I want to learn to be less critical, more tolerant of the way other people do things, more respectful -- even when I don't understand.

Eckhart Tolle says in his book "A New Earth", that if I want to learn to become a new person, I must learn to set aside my ego, and become present to my Being-ness. I need to recognize the thoughts that come up as just that -- thoughts; and not identify with those thoughts, not consider that I am my thoughts. He claims that when I can hear the voices in my head that are saying critical things about others, and I can dismiss them, then I can move to more awareness and then ultimately change those thought patterns.

This is a process of Dis-covery. And I think it's way better than Re-covery. Because Recovery implies going back to what was. And I know that I want to be better than what I was. I hope to have better posture, better flexibility, better enthusiasm for life, and better thought patterns. Even if it does take time; I can learn to be patient. Perhaps that's the first step.

The others will follow; I believe!

[Sheryl]

Dear Funwey

You are right :) Sometimes the process of re-covery leads to dis-covery.

Perhaps this is what Life is trying to tell you. There are so many hidden things about ourselves that we don't notice and it is only by slowing down, by being helpless and letting others take over, that we really notice and learn to appreciate them.

SHERYL

[successadvisor]

Hello Funwey,

Sometimes we have to go through this process of recovery. But forcing things and pain doesn't bring recovery, it brings damage.

And indeed, the process of discovery will help us to go to a higher point.

Using patience ;-), you will see that sometimes recovery can lead to discovery.

All the best on your journey of Discovery,
Cristian

[LoveIsTheAnswer]

It is important that one be kind to themselves.

This means forgiving oneself for one's mistakes.

It is very difficult to achieve a higher state of being if you don't think you deserve it.

[welshmaid]

Hello All.. I wanted to post this little poem which was given to me when I was feeling quite low about life in general..! I read it quite often :)

DON'T QUIT

When things go wrong as they sometimes will
When the road your're trudging seems all uphill
When funds are low and the debts are high
And you want to smile but you have to sigh
When care is pressing down a bit
Rest if you must, but don't quit !

Life is queer with its twists and turns
As everyone of us sometimes learns
And many a failure turns about
When we might have won had we stuck it out
Don't give up, though the pace seems slow
You might succeed with another blow

Often the goal is nearer than
It seems to a faint and faltering man
Often the struggler has given up
When he might have captured the victor's cup
And he learned too late when the night slipped down
How close he was to the golden crown

Success is failure turned inside out
The silver lining in clouds of doubt
And you never know how close you are
It may be near when it seems afar
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit
It's when things seem worst that you mustn't quit !

Julia